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CGl Rules: How to use rules and structure to improve your AgePlay / CGl / DDlg relationship
September 9, 2019
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CGl / DDlg Rules, rewards, and structure are often important aspects of an AgePlay relationship. Rules and structure are a great way to strengthen your relationship.
In this article I’ll give you my opinion about the benefits of having rules and structure, dispel a few myths, explain how you can incorporate some CGL / DDlg rules in to your relationship, and give you some ideas for rules you can use yourself.
I hope you enjoy the article, and if you have any suggestions or comments please leave a comment or use the contact page 🙂 Thank for reading
What are rules in an AgePlay/CGL/DDlg relationship?
In any AgePlay relationship, rules are agreed upon tasks or behaviours that are to be carried out, usually by the little.
Rules should be created to help littles grow and improve themselves, and to strengthen the CG/l or DD/lg dynamic of the relationship.
Having “rules” might sound a little controlling for some people, but if the rules are created properly they are one of the best ways to provide the support, guidance and structure a little often looks for in a relationship.
How to come up with rules?
Rules should be beneficial for both the little and the caregiver. Come up with and agree on the rules TOGETHER. Whether you’re a CG or a little you should openly discuss rules before trying to add them to your relationship.
Generic rules are a waste of time and don’t add anything to the relationship. Rules have to be decided by mutual consent, and only after you both carefully consider what needs/desires will be fulfilled by the rule.
A good place to start is to think about any areas you want to improve. Some examples are, if a little is working hard on getting more healthy, you could add a rule about going for a walk every day.
One thing I would mention though, is that with any rules concerning addiction or mental health, you have to be extremely careful. Punishing someone for being unable to overcome an addictive habit is unacceptable in any relationship.
In my opinion, the best way to enforce the rules is by positive reinforcement. That means, make sure to reward good behaviour. I wrote a separate article about reward ideas for CGl/DDlg relationships, you might get some good ideas for rewards there.
If the rules are set up correctly, there should be an intrinsic value built in to every rule. For example, following the rule of going for a walk every day will help with exercise, get some fresh air, and feel relaxed and happy.
As well as rewards, you can of course use punishments for negative reinforcement, though I don’t think it’s as effective as rewards. Punishments can be fun, but they also need to be discussed and agreed upon together, and don’t go overboard!
The benefits of using rules in CGl/AgePlay
Having a caregiver create rules and structure for their little is an excellent way to reinforce the CG/l relationship dynamic, and to improve the relationship overall.
Rules benefit both parties, by providing the little with structure, support and guidance, and satisfying their caregiver’s desire to care for them.
Rules are a useful way to help improve the life of a little, to help them grow and make sure they are always improving. One example of this might be if a little is getting too stressed, a rule about what time to go to bed might be helpful, to ensure they always get a good night of sleep.
Being cared for by a caregiver is one of the best possible ways for a little to get in to littlespace. The feeling of having someone who knows best for you look after you and make decisions for you is very powerful. I wrote a separate article about How to get in to Littlespace that you might be interested in!
A little love and guidance goes a long way. Not only do littles thrive in this type of environment, there is no greater satisfaction as a caregiver than to see the love of your life grow and flourish with your support.
If a CG tries to enforce one sided or arbitrary rules, for their own personal satisfaction without considering how it will affect their little, that is a huge red flag.
How to measure/track rules?
Rules don’t have to be set in stone. As your relationship changes, the structure you decide on will also change. If you read my Littlespace Reward Ideas article, you’ll know I suggested there to measure rewards with some kind of tracker.
This also applies to rules, there are loads of awesome rules trackers you can get from Amazon, or just create your own! They are simple to make, it could be a fun activity to do together while you come up with your rules.
Track rules as well as rewards, they work well together!
Finally, some tips about CGL / DDlg rules:
Don’t worry if rules don’t work for you. Everyone’s different, you’re not any less of a little or caregiver because you don’t use specific rules. Be flexible. Relationships evolve over time, something that works right now might not work forever, and something that works for one partner might not work for the other. Talk about what’s working and what isn’t. Come up with your rules together and be honest about what you want! Be careful if you’re in a new relationship. Rules should benefit both partners and shouldn’t be one sided. Only set rules that you will be able to consistently keep. Consistency is important, there’s no point setting loads of rules at the start then not keeping them.
Thanks for reading! If you have any questions, comments or suggestions feel free to leave a comment, or use the contact page. I would love to hear how you use rules in your own relationships.
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